Quotes

“Every three seconds in the developing world, a child dies needlessly due to lack of basic health care and other things we all take for granted.”

“At every stage in life you think about death. But teenagers especially are sort of invincible. They’re not supposed to be thinking about dying yet, or else they’d be too afraid to live.”

“People have asked me if I would hang out with Angela is she were real, and I don’t know if I would, yet I find solace in her, and we’ve gotten close in a lot of ways. It can be so lonely when I work. There aren’t many kids my age, besides the people on the show, that I hang around with. I’m close to them, but sometimes it doesn’t cut it as a social life. So Angela does become my friend, you know?”

On being a teenager in 1995: “It’s an exciting time. But I also think people are afraid somehow. This sort of a scary time—with AIDS and all this technology, and the media and everything.”

“But I don’t know if people are meant to be together. You have to have a lot in common, choose well and be really fortunate. It’s not like you’re sprinkled with fairy dust. You have to believe that love will be there when you need it.”

“Psychology and acting are very closely linked. It’s just about studying people and how they work. It can be an incredible discipline and exercise.”

“I’ve always very earnestly tried to do my best, so I just have to trust that and forgive myself for being fallible.”

“Most people assume that autistic people are not capable of empathy.”

“My first offer was when I was 12, and it was for a soap opera. And I turned it down because I knew that I was an unformed actor, and I didn’t want to develop bad habits.”

“It’s very difficult to judge yourself. Extreme self-doubt is only attractive when it’s fictionalized. Which is why people love the movies. They are so reassuring.”

“I actually think in some ways that it might be more challenging to be bipolar because it’s so mercurial – it’s so ever-changing. You can’t get any traction. You can’t build on a system. Whereas, somebody who has Asperger’s, which is certainly a much more forgiving expression of autism, can create models for coping and build on them over time.”

“It just seems like the most successful, iconic love stories are not so easy or escapist. I think the ones that stay with us and resonate are full of conflict, discord and misunderstandings ’cause that’s what makes drama happen or tension even if it’s a comedy.”

“I like marriage. I feel very secure. It helps when you are in love with the person you are married to.”

“I took three years off. I differentiated myself from the industry. Found my identity – sort of… I haven’t graduated yet. I’m not legitimately educated yet, but maybe one day.”

“I’ve always had a really active imagination. Lots of kids have imaginary friends. Mine just took on a rather demonic form.”

“Relationships are a constant negotiation and balance.”

“I was told that my going to college wouldn’t be good for my career. I think that’s nonsense. It’s good to empower yourself by cutting yourself off from this business every once in a while.”

“I never thought of myself as a child actor. I knew I was a kid, but they weren’t related. There was nothing I could do about being a kid, and meanwhile I was an actress, and I had something to say in my acting.”

“Usually, my social life and my sanity and my health are the things that are sacrificed.”

On husband Hugh Dancy: “He’s such a cutie patootie. While relationships are work, this just didn’t feel like it. It’s the kind of work that feels energizing rather than enervating. I find it very freeing to know that, okay, it takes constant nurturing and attention, but I can also stop looking for the one.”

On Lena Dunham’s series ‘Girls’ and its central character, Hannah: “Lena’s power lies largely in her self-awareness and wit. Like all great comics, she has a joke ready to deflect any jeer. Hannah’s pathetic declaration that she could at least be ‘a voice for a generation’ invites and thwarts many a poisoned arrow. Lena’s true power, though, lies in her transparency. She is unflinchingly, unnervingly honest. She exposes, beneath all that bare skin, a multitude of shortcomings..as vivid and raw a portrait as we have seen.”

“They had written Carrie as bipolar without even knowing it. At first, I was concerned that it would just be a gimmick. I still am because it’s fun to see crazy Carrie.”